I’ll just start right out by saying when you assume, you make an ass out of u and me. You know that saying right? It’s as old as dirt. Ass-u-me? Ahh, now you remember. So let’s run with that. Personally, I do not assume. Nor do I judge. I feel judgement and assumptions run hand in hand and cause just as much damage. That’s enough for an opinionated introduction. Let’s add some facts to this rolling snowball.
The word “assumption” is defined as: “a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof.” (Google Dictionary, 2018). So basically when someone hears a story or sees someone dressed a certain way or I could list of 1000 different ways assumptions raises it’s ignorant head because they believe the story. They assume the story being told is fact and that whatever its about indeed happened.
Here’s where there is a problem. A person that makes assumptions all the time has an apparent disability determining fact from fiction. I’ve also noticed a certain type of person to assume more than normal people. These are drama starters. I’ve lived in mostly small towns all of my life. Drama increases assumptions by 100% I kid you not.
‘”Mary Jane was seen going over to George’s house. They must be having sex.”
That is a perfect example of an assumption just being made. If used, it can be emotionally and socially damaging. Gossip is simply a chain of assumptions. It starts with one assumption, then the next person adds in their own assumption, and then the next and so on and so on. By the end of the day Mary Jane and George were devil worshipers and had sex on a pentacle.
Assumptions have zero truth and zero credibility. When friends of mine try to gossip with me, I always ask for a reliable and credible source. Hardly any of my friends try to gossip with me anymore.